Archive for June, 2011

It’s Time to Give Yourself Permission

Remember when you were younger and needed a “permission slip” for missing school or leaving the classroom or to go on a field trip? Now that you are an adult, you may no longer need a written “permission slip” to do the things you want to do, but I am betting that there are many things you don’t do because you don’t give yourself permission!

How about these:cell phone use

  1. Permission to take a day off – without feeling guilty.
  2. Permission to not check your email or BlackBerry if you do give yourself a day off!
  3. Permission to say “no.”
  4. Permission to go to bed early or sleep in (or stay up really late!)
  5. Permission to do something others may think is out of character for you.

Now is the time to give yourself permission to lighten up and enjoy life more! It will reduce your stress and lighten your load.

Focus On Significance – Not Success

Focus On Significance – Not Success

“The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance, and then even the small steps will take on a greater meaning.” ~ Oprah

We do tend to focus on “success.” Probably because it is measurable. Either you met your goal or you didn’t. You you are somewhere along the continum of progress toward meeting the goal.

Oprah is suggesting that you need to focus more on the significance of what you are doing, rather than just the end result. I think she has a good point. Often you overlook the steps you have taken to get to a certain point along the path of success.

This ties into my recommendation to “Celebrate Success” as part of your goal execution process. Celebrate a successful end result, of course. But also celebrate little successes along the way. This will keep you and others motivated to continue.

If the going gets tough, find something to celebrate to realign the focus. Focusing on the positive will encourage you to stay on your plan to the desired outcome.

If you are challenged by sticking to your plan, check out our “Get What You Say You Want-Goals” Program. This behavioral approach to setting and executing your goals could make the difference between success and what you have been doing in the past!

The Challenge of Vacation

The Challenge of Vacation

I have been on a “sail-batical” for most of the past six months. It was a test: a test of my skills and courage; a test of my ability to work from a virtual office; a test to see if I can live in a space of 48 feet by 14 feet (with a v-shape eliminating floor space; a test if I could live with a limited wardrobe in a 12 inch wide closet!

But the real test was could I keep my mind and spirit busy in such an enviroment. Trust me, it is hard to keep you mind on work when living in the Caribbean islands! However, everyone needs to take some real time for rest and relaxation.

  • Are you one of those who is too busy to take time off?
  • If you do take time off, do you short change yourself with long week-ends instead of a couple of weeks together?

Our minds need the break. Our bodies need the break. It takes a few days just to wind down before you begin to relax. Then your metabolism resets itself and actually allows you to relax internally as well as mentally. Take some time to unwind and rest. The work will always be there, but your friends and family may not. Or you may not if you push yourself too hard all of the time.

Part of success planning is planning ways to boost your personal health. The most important part is disconnecting from your electronic tethers and let yourself rest. Make this summer a time to regenerate yourself.sunset

Sharing Leadership Roles

presentation 1” Leaders aren’t born, they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work. And that’s the price we’ll have to pay to achieve that goal, or any goal. “   ~  Vince Lombardi

While some people are more inclined to step up to leadership roles, everyone can develop leadership skills, if desired. Many times an individual just needs steady reinforcement of their ability. This can happen through coaching and mentoring. Or it could happen from being put in a situation where they have to lead and have the support of others.

While not every behavioral style is comfortable being in front of a group or taking the responsibility for success of the team, even the quiet, conscientious person has the ability to lead. It will be in a different way.

Regardless of one’s leadership style, it is important to give everyone an opportunity to develop their leadership strengths and put them to practice. Bring less experienced employees into the role by giving small leadership assignments to help them increase their confidence and comfort.

When a few others accept parts of the project and take the lead in those areas, you are developing talent. At the same time you are giving yourself more time to mentor and coach those future leaders.